Divorces are hard. Plain and simple.
Especially when kids are involved.
Co-parenting and making sure your children are always the focus can be a challenge for most couples. How do you make sure everyone is on the same page and wants the same things for your children, when you’re no longer together?
With help from The Canadian Bar Association, we’ve put together a list of 4 books that can help guide you through the process.
1. Putting Children First: Proven Strategies for Helping Children Thrive through Divorce, JoAnne Pedro-Carroll
Provides information about children’s experience of separation and the potential impact of separation on children, and discusses how to talk to children and help them prepare for separation, how to support children’s resilience and how to create parenting plans.
2. Befriending Your Ex After Divorce: Making Life Better for You, Your Kids and, Yes, your Ex, Judith Ruskay Rabinor
Discusses how parents living apart can develop and maintain a healthy, functional relationship to help them raise their children together after their separation.
3. Parents Are Forever: A Step-by-Step Guide to Becoming
The recent decision in the matter of Nichols v. Herdman, 2015 CarswellOnt 9262 (Ont. S.C.J.), sets out what grandparents are required to prove in order to obtain a court order for custody/access of grandchildren. In this case, the grandparents brought a motion seeking several orders with respect to their grandchild, Megan, including joint custody, primary care of Megan during the weekdays, two access evenings per week and access with Megan every weekend. Unsurprisingly, Megan’s parents were not agreeable to the aggressive position taken by the grandparents. They refused to allow the grandmother any access to Megan, but they were prepared to allow supervised access by the grandfather.
Section 21 of the Children’s Law Reform Act requires custody and access questions to be determined on the basis of “the best interests of the child.” The Court also referred to the principle set out in the Ontario Court of Appeal decision of Chapman v. Chapman, 2001 CanLII 24015 (ON CA) which addressed the level of deference to be accorded to the decisions and judgments of parents: